I was reminded again the other day of how much we humans struggle to physically and emotionally let go of our pets. The ironic thing about this is that our pets struggle to stay because they know how sad and lost we’ll be when they’re gone. This struggle for both sides can continue for a while until either the animal simply can’t go on any longer and dies or the human realizes that their loving companion is suffering and needs help to pass on to their next life. Either way, death is the outcome but letting go is the final struggle.
I’ve talked to many humans who’ve told me they know their pet is old or in pain or is suffering in some way. But, they just can’t bring themselves to call their Veterinarian and schedule an appointment for their furry friend’s euthanasia. One reason is that they want to be sure their pet is ready to die. Does “Buster” want them to keep trying to save his life? Does he want to stay with them hoping that things will get better? What else can they do to make his life easier? My job is to talk to Buster and find out what he wants. I have encountered only 2-3 pets in the years I’ve been talking with animals who have told me that they want to stay with their families, that they want their people to do everything they can to make them better. Most of the time, the “Busters” I communicate with are ready to die…they’re just waiting for their humans to give them permission.
I’ve also been asked to communicate with pets who’ve already died. What I generally tell people who contact me with this in mind, is that I can try to reach their pet but there are no guarantees that I’ll be able to find them. Especially if their pet passed away a while ago. What I’ve found in my work with animals who have passed is that there are some pets who cannot move on to their next life if their humans won’t let them go. I’ve also talked to pets who couldn’t move on because they had an important message to give to their humans. Either way, these animals need to be released by their humans in order to feel free to go on to their next life. And therein lies our struggle…letting go.
We all love our pets and want them to live forever. We shiver when we think the time will come when we might find “Fluffy” lying dead in her bed one morning. We cringe at the idea of having to make a decision about whether or not to euthanize “Ginger.” After all, these animals are our faithful companions, our buds and members of our families. How can we possibly face the prospect that one day our wonderful creatures will be gone? As I’ve come to learn over the years of living with animals and then also watching then die, is that part of welcoming a pet into my heart and my home is that I also accept the responsibility of letting them go. This process starts the minute we bring that new puppy or shelter kitty or adopted horse into our lives. For now we’ve opened ourselves up to being truly loving and unselfish humans…and letting our pets go when the time comes is all part this wonderful condition.
Blessings to you and your furry friends.