As we all know, when our pets pass on, their presence in our lives is replaced by a massive gaping hole. The sadness we feel at their deaths can be overwhelming. And the quiet we ‘hear’ in our homes is like an unwelcome stranger. How can we possibly get through the coming days without our faithful companion who has been with us for so many years? When will this sadness go away? And when is it okay to get another pet?
Each one of us deals with loss and sadness in our own way. Some people carry the loss of a pet like a burden that weighs them down for several days and even months or years. Some will heavily grieve the loss of their pet for a while and then will move on to a “constructive sadness.” This “constructive sadness” allows them to continue with life’s responsibilities while they deal with the emptiness in the house and the constant reminders of what they’ve lost.
Still others will experience sadness at the death of their pet but will accept the loss as something that just happens. These people experience grief but don’t let it consume them. They move on knowing they had a good life with their pet. And when the time is right, will get another pet to share their lives with.
There is no right or wrong way to grieve just like there is no right or wrong way to feel about helping our pets pass on. We do the best we can. That’s all our pets ever ask of us. And it needs to be all we ever ask of ourselves. Otherwise our worry and our indecision and our anguish will go on until they take over our lives. And that’s never good.
Loss of a dear pet is very sad and it can be very difficult to get over. But I believe that time is the best healer…time and acceptance for what has to be when we take a pet into our lives and into our hearts. We take them in with love. We have to let them go with love.
Blessings to you and all your furry friends.